I'm Ineffable!
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"Incapable of being expressed;
indescribable or unutterable".
I chose the name cuz I thought it'd be funny, given I aim to be so anonymous!
You can call me Effie for short; I'm 23, birthdays on the 16th of October.
I enjoy role-playing, games and I LOVE to do 3D modelling stuff, plus messing around a li'l bit in Godot. I have a ton of hobbies that I'm always glad to spew about!I have no preference in pronouns, so I suppose I'm Any/All. He, she, they, it... I don't really care! If you want a default, choose he or she.I wanna make things that people can enjoy some day, but I just wanna lead a good life importantly overall and maybe bring some people along for the trip!I'm very open about how I feel and always assume the best of people.
I hope you assume the best of me and my intentions, too!At the end of it all, I just wanna make things people enjoy and take pride in that I was able to entertain.
Time Until My Next Birthday!
Ground Rules
The Internet's a scary place, so is real life, so I got a couple of rules and I'm pretty adamant about them!These contribute towards me leading a better life, so please abide by them!
Consider this our 'social contract' if you wanna be my friend.Keep in mind, I'm not gonna be friends with anyone and everyone either!
1. We're only online friends... mostly.
It is super unlikely I'll reveal personal details about myself nor do I want to know too much anything that is too personally identifying about you.Your first name, age and the country you live in 'n all is whatever since it is a needle in a haystack, but if it gets too personal and things feel too quick, I'll let ya know.My real and online life is usually kept very separate, y'see. Depends how long we've known each other, too and how much I feel I trust you.There's the super rare chance that there may be some EXCEPTIONAL circumstances but otherwise I'll always say "No!".
2. Don't bring too much drama / trauma dump!
If you bring too much to my doorstep and/or if it's completely unwarranted, likelihood is I will tell you to find people who can handle it and/or I am uncomfortable with the conversation.I'm not a therapist or anything of the sort - I'm wise and emotionally intelligent, but I can't solve your issues. I don't mind you talking about your feelings, just I'll let you know if it's too much for me.I've got my own issues I generally keep to myself bar those that have earned my trust; I don't burn myself to keep someone else warm, basically~.
3. Certain topics may not on the table!
Y'know, things like extreme visceral descriptions of blood, gore, sex, etc... and this is primarily an age thing for me.
While the benchmark for a young adult is 16 in the UK and that is what I'm used to a believe from my knowledge of law across the world being also generally 16-17, I keep contentious and/or explicit topics to people who are 18 or over.
The exception lies in that I know you're 18 or over and we're both fine with it, plus we've known each other for decent while! I may retract this at any time and I will tell you when I do.Otherwise, keep all chatter generally appropriate for all ages.If you're below 16 and you try to converse with topics of this nature, I will ask you to stop only once and talk with you for a couple moments. Do it again, and you're blocked for the rest of time, no exceptions.If I know you're 16-17, then I'm generally more lenient out of my own bias but still request you don't talk too deeply about these things with me and respect the platform we're talking on and its policies and I probably won't smite you from my lists if you make mistakes.I give that momentary spacer because I understand teens want to express and explore things and themselves so I can understand that angle - I was like that too - and they may even be allowed to talk or consume certain content as per their local laws.
The Internet is kinda iffy on what the exact age should be, countries differ and not even America itself entirely agrees, though the majority of states are 16 or 17 (much like the rest of the world), a few being 18.
As long as you can understand this, then we're fine!
4. Sacrifice likeability for trust.
Self explanatory - I'd rather trust you and not like you than like you living a lie. I will always do this because lying simply isn't in my core, nor would I do it intentionally.
Trust is a big factor to my friendships. Likeability can be fixed and remedied - breaking trust is just hard to get back, sometimes impossible. Being trust-worthy makes it much easier to become likeable again.
It sounds obvious but you'd be surprised how people forget this rule or intentionally break it.
Don't ever intentionally ghost me, block me suddenly, be vague when it's serious, etc... that's a quick way to lose my trust because I've had that happen to me before and it's not fucking fun.
The only people who can't do this are liars and/or cowards and just aren't worth my time or effort.
They aren't worthy of me and I know my value and what I bring to the table.
DNI Section
This one is generally short since I'm open to a lot of ideas, even ones I don't necessarily agree with. I use a lot of materials and sources in writing.But I do have some do-not-interact bits, so let's start!DNI if:
- If you're under 13.
God I hope you're supervised on the Internet if you are.
- Incapable of separating fiction from reality / topics banned on the platform we're talking on.
I don't really care what you enjoy and people should be responsible for their own media consumption.
I'm generally comfortable with a wide arrange of topics, but I'll let you know if I do become uncomfortable!
Why was I blocked?
Let's make this clear, for those affected by this - I have no need to prove anything to you nor you to me.In all likelihood, you probably did something to me or someone I care about in such a way that broke my trust and violated Rule 4. I've rarely done anything that required me to block someone for rest of the rules and Rule 4 is the most common blocking reason.Some cases, I hear it word of mouth in such an undeniably presented degree that I prematurely blocked you as a perceived toxic element. I like BlueSky's blocklists for this reason, granted I trust the maker.You did what you did. You know what you did. Worse still, some of you can't accept any level of responsibility, whether that's because you lack a spine of your own, you're sensationalist at heart, etc...You've got nothing to prove. If you care about making it right, then denounce the actions that happened and take responsibility and I might consider you again.Until then? Continue basking in your slothful, festering dreams in that easy-to-keep comfort of delusion that requires only conformity to it. Leave me out of it.
You're just not someone that is worth bringing along for my personal trip.
Other Stuff
That's pretty much it! If you're happy with that, we can interact and enjoy good times!I have a public server which is designed to be a space space for people to express themselves and find new friends 'n all that. It's got a handful of people currently, so why don't ya join if you like what I do?
More stuff may get added in time, so keep watch! I wanna add a playlist of my favourite songs next!
Hey hey, so as an update, I got a song of favourite songs! I use YouTube which I know is a little silly to some.Feel free to check them out! I'll be expanding this over time.Some songs may have suggestive imagery, so keep that in mind!.
You're responsible for your own media consumption, as stated before.
Things I Suffer With
Now, I'm gonna keep it short but I suffer from a couple things. Some of things I struggle with are, based on sessions I've taken with counselling and medical care:- Trust Issues
- Stress & Anxiety
- Moderate Depression
- Autism (specifically ASD Level 1)
This is just so you're aware and I may or may not go into some details, it's mostly something I'm not comfortable talking about though.
I will say that some of it has been partly circumstances out of my control such as where I live and partly caused by other people, intentionally and unintentionally.
I do take medication.